Many people have a difficult time deciding whether or not sex is right for their relationship. While some individuals treat sex as though it is nothing major, others will place a little more importance on their sex lives. If your partner is asking you to take your relationship to the next level, or if you are trying to decide for yourself whether or not you want to enter into sexual relations, it can be a stressful choice to make. Many people become lost and confused, and suddenly don’t have anyone to ask for advice because it is such a personal matter, and the person they would normally go to for problems is the one that they would be having sex with. Thankfully, there are a few easy questions that you can ask yourself, and if you answer them honestly, you will be able to make a decision as to whether or not you want to have sex.
Just remember that this is a serious choice to make, and could have repercussions that will last the rest of your life. You shouldn’t do it just because you want to, or because you don’t want to disappoint your partner; but you should do it because it is what you feel is right. Here are a few examples of questions that will help you come to the right choice… While these will help you, keep in mind that you should spend more time making the decision than you would deciding what you want to order for lunch. This is serious, and should really not be taken lightly. If you have your doubts, play it safe, and tell your partner that you’re not ready—or at least, that you would like to wait for the time being.
Start With- How long have you been together?
For many people, time spent together is a huge part of deciding whether or not is right for you to have sex. You don’t want to be together for just a short period, and then have the other person leave you because they got what they wanted. Of course, you will want to make sure that you are with someone that you have been with for a long time, and someone who will not leave you if you decide you aren’t ready to have sex right away.
Are you ready for this step? Are they ready for it?
You don’t want to convince yourself that you’re ready to make this move just because your partner is, but you also don’t want to rush them into it either. You should take the time to have a mature conversation and decide what is best for you and for your relationship. Sex can wait, if there is need for it, and there is no need for you to go all the way just because you don’t want to wait too long. Make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page, and that no one is uncomfortable with the decision to have sex if that is where you decide to lead your relationship.
Is your relationship monogamous?
This is something that will absolutely need to be considered, and may be one of the important factors in making your decision. Is there any possibility that your partner is cheating on you? Or are you cheating on them? Is it a relationship where both people are free to be with other people? If this is the case, then you most likely will not want to have sex until it is an exclusive relationship, and you do not have to worry about them running off to someone else. In addition, you should seriously consider what your partner’s sexual history has been like, as well as what your own history has been. Many people will only want to have protected sex (if that) if the other person has been in many relationships where sex was common. This is a smart idea, as it will keep both people healthy, and STD free.
These are some of the best questions to ask yourself if you are having a hard time making a decision. In the end, however, the only way you can make the right decision is to be true to yourself, and to be open with your partner. This is a choice that you should make together, just consider the consequences and the benefits of each strongly before you do anything final.